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As time has gone on I have noticed something deep.
Everybody gets offended.
Yup- that's it. Also- well, many, many people are really annoying.
In fact the whole "everybody gets offended" thing is really damaging my mojo here. I self censor.
It's inevitable I guess unless drama is like oxygen to you. And frankly, I hate drama. I have four kids and a husband that give me plenty of that. Unlike other seeming droves of women on the Internet it just makes me tired to argue with a stranger.
I have to say- I don't get it.
The negative commentators. I mean, I read blogs and follow Facebook pages (well, actually I don't look at FB pages any more) and I don't argue with people much. If I disagree I look away. If I disagree with a blogger- well- whatever. They are entitled to their opinion. And if we don't happen to agree on everything that is just fine with me.
So I censor myself. Because I know that anything and everything will set off the droves of howling harpies with nothing else to do but tell me how I suck or tell me how judgmental I am or how much they loved their epidural/c-section/bottle feeding relationship.
I can honestly say that that is just great if they loved those things. I just don't happen to love them and I am not going to pretend that I do just to give them the proverbial pat on the head, "I'm OK, you're OK" condescending pile of schlep.
I mean, seriously? I don't care what you think of my decisions. Why do you care what I think of yours? Oh- it's because I'm judgmental? Is that it? And you just can't stand judgmental people...
Well I am OFFENDED that you judged me to be judgmental. And now I am in a huff!!!! Gosh dang it- apologize and rub my feelings!
Seriously though- CONFESSIONS. That's why you are reading this, right? (Just kidding- I know that nobody is reading this because this is one of those posts I write to blow of steam and embarrass my children in some future day.)
Here are a few- big, dirty, offensive. (Not really, unless you are annoying, then they will be offensive.)
1) I can't stand Single Dad Laughing. Not because he thinks my church is dumb or anything like that. No. I can't stand him because of that freaking post about Costco and the mean dad that he watched for two minutes.
Seriously? SERIOUSLY? There is nothing more irritating than a person who has one kid young child, part time, who DARES to write 2000 words condemning a parent he watched for a few minutes in a grocery store.
I'll admit- my parenting isn't always up to par. Sometimes I suck. I screw up. I say the wrong thing. Sometimes I am even mean.
I am ashamed of it. But it's the truth. I get overwhelmed and MESS UP.
And I am willing to bet one million dollars that the single dad does too.
Everybody screws up their kids- and you know what is scary- NOBODY REALIZES IT WHEN THEY ARE DOING IT.
I have seen bad parents in action. I can think of one in particular. And it is sad and toxic and awful. I would love to hate the mother in this situation because of her crappy parenting skills. But then I saw the way HER MOTHER treated HER.
Yup. Parenting is largely inherited. And for those of us with access and the ability to read books and get therapy and even other people who give a crap to guide us and love us and help us be better then maybe there is no excuse for our behavior. But a lot of people- they just don't have that. It is the sad and ugly truth.
Not everybody in America has access to the blessings you have access too.
(What is ironic here is that I am offended that SDL is judgmental. HAHA! I crack myself up with my own hypocrisy!)
2) I don't read comments on my Facebook page any more.
If you want to tell me I suck or go on and on about how my opinion really ticks you off- feel free. I won't stop you. I won't delete you. I won't EVEN NOTICE.
Because seriously- the catty crap just brings me down. I have this blog because I LOVE NATURAL BIRTH. I have this blog because I want other women to get information about natural birth. I have this blog so that I can vent and talk and do something I love- WRITE.
I don't have this blog to make you happy.
The only reason I have a Facebook page at all is to promote my blog- because I love this stupid little blog in a way that is probably unnatural.
Sure- sometimes I will admit, I DO READ COMMENTS. I get sucked in. I can't look away!
Then I have to punch my eyes out and yell at my kids so really, it isn't worth it.
3) Oh yeah- the biggie-
I LOVE NATURAL BIRTH!!!!
And I make not apologizes for it.
Here is to a little more honesty- even if it hurts.